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1. Svetlana
   Member

   In your opinion, young girl’s first sexual experience is … Try to describe it in three adjectives or something like that. NO CONFESSIONS are necessary! It does not matter whether you are a man or a woman. What matters is that you say what you think versus what is acceptable or you think is expected from you. The point of the exercise is first to determine how believable Juno’s description of her sex with her boyfriend. Secondly it is fun to find out what we think.

   I would go with

   AWKWARD, painful and it can only get better

   Posted: 2008-06-04 16:46:20 #

2. Stick
   Member

   With a man: Painful, boring, not worth the wait.
   With a woman: Thrilling, intense, best thing in the world ever!

   Posted: 2008-06-05 01:09:38 #

3. yermudder
   Member

   wtf is up with your Juno obsession dude?

   Posted: 2008-06-05 06:32:14 #

4. Svetlana
   Member

   What is with your answering a question with a question, dude? You do not have to participate, if you do not want to. I am trying to have a discussion where people are involved and when they do their own thinking instead of being spoon-fed by “ready-to-digest” “pre-chewed” somebody else’s opinions. Come on, this could be fun!

   “Tell me and I foget; show me and I remember; involve me and I understand.” (Unknown)

   Posted: 2008-06-05 12:55:23 #

5. yermudder
   Member

   “In your opinion, young girl’s first sexual experience is…”

   “The point of the exercise is first to determine how believable Juno’s description of her sex with her boyfriend.”

   You’re asking adults,(I hope no children are reading your thread)to comment on a high school girl’s first sexual experience. Do you really think that’s appropriate? Take your perversions elsewhere.

   Posted: 2008-06-06 08:28:54 #

6. oilgun
   Member

   Overreact much, yermudder? Kallinik’s posts may be unusual but they are hardly perverted. Also, for what it’s worth, I’m sure teens read & participate in this forum, at least I hope so, and I doubt that a little sex talk would faze them.

   Posted: 2008-06-06 09:18:18 #

7. Svetlana
   Member

   Thank you, Oilgun! I think yermudder comments are becoming rather offensive. You know what they say, a pervert is not who speaks but the one who finds and hears perversion in everything. I was trying to have a discussion about the film “Juno”. I think it is much more interesting that appears on the surface. When Juno says that her sex with her boyfriend was great, I did not believe it. I do not think there are many women who would disagree. But, the strange thing about Juno is that she is the girl with balls! She initiates sex, literally she takes the guy and she calls the shots throughout the movie. She is the man in the film, the second manly man is her father, the rest of them are lacking will-power. I can imaging yermudder in the role of Juno’s father – the guy would be livid! And most parents will be! Everything in the film is rather unusual and that is exactly my point. We have to look beyond (or beneath) the surface. I was hoping that someone will share my vision. Or at least give it a try!

   Posted: 2008-06-06 14:11:15 #

8. Poet
   Member

   “When Juno says that her sex with her boyfriend was great, I did not believe it. I do not think there are many women who would disagree.”

   I have only heard that from girls and women who have been with me! hehe

   Sorry, was too easy to pass on it!

   Posted: 2008-06-06 15:15:54 #

9. footnote
   Member

   Sorry Kallinik, going to have to flip your rules, can’t really speak for “young girls”. But I think Juno’s “friend” Bleeker was perfect, most realistic teenage boy ever. So here is my three for the guys (the honest ones anyway):

   Clueless, messy and fast

   Posted: 2008-06-06 15:59:05 #

10. Svetlana
    Member

    Bleeker is believable, but Juno? If you want to flip rules, can I really stop you? Thank you for honesty, if you were honest. This one is for Heather Yermudder: you look rather sweet on the photograph! I thought you were a old guy.

    Posted: 2008-06-06 16:54:15 #

11. cathyottawa
    Member

    I don’t remember Juno saying the sex was “great”. Who did she say this to? Why do you assume she’s telling the truth?

    Posted: 2008-06-07 11:13:40 #

12. Svetlana
    Member

    I believe the actual word was “Magnificent!” “The sex was premeditated not like this whole “let’s get pregnant” thing.” Juno Talks to Leah, her beast friend.

    The second time she defends her choice is when Juno “confesses” to her parents. Parents & Leah have a little laugh, and Juno says “Actually, Palie was great in a ….Chair”

    Posted: 2008-06-08 03:43:23 #

13. Zoodles
    Member

    I just watched Juno last night and was pretty impressed with the movie. Juno the character seems very strong inside and what I liked about her was her consistency, loyalty, and honesty. The females were the strong role models in the film. Jason Bateman’s character waffled, while Jennifer Garner’s character knew what she wanted and kept struggling towards her goal until she got it.

    Pretty much everything Juno did in the movie was ethical, honest, and loyal. Yes, she had faults but she lived up to them. Frankly, I was very impressed with her as a character.

    As for the topic of this thread. My first experience was nothing to write home about. It was awkward and strange. Maybe if it had of been with someone I cared about it would have been different/better. For the record the scene seemed pretty realistic.

    Posted: 2008-06-08 13:06:38 #

14. Svetlana
    Member

    I would like to thank everyone who participated in this thread. Every post has been invaluable to me. I certainly got more than I asked for and I really appreciate it. I figured out what was bothering me with this film, but I had to watch it for the second time. Figuratively speaking, I have not noticed an elephant in the room! It was so obvious! Juno was simply in love and as clueless as the rest of us. I am not going to write too much about the film (you have your own opinions of it), but I want to say that I know why she said that the sex was great for her. The secret is she was in control. Physiological pain is nothing compared to the high of power! That is the most powerful drug that you can get. Did you ever feel it?

    Posted: 2008-06-23 00:26:57 #

15. Wentai
    Member

    Talking about sex is harmless. Never talking about it, so that teens don’t know the dangers, is harmfull. It’s pretty important to let young people know about venerial disease and pregnancy so they can avoid them.

    People should be a bit nicer to Kallinik, as she is merely discussing important issues. To dampen an intellectual discussion is hardly intelligent.

    Besides, I was born into the world pretty ignorant. I mean I knew nothing when I was young. Only through reading books did I gain any knowlege. I read the Kinsey report on Human Sexuality when I was a teenager and it did not hurt me or injure me in any way; education spared me a lot of problems since I was able to avoid them.

    If someone had taken my books away from me when I was a teenager, or prevented those books from being left around, I would have gone through life ignorant of the genuine dangers out there and I might have gotten myself into trouble. We should never prevent teens from reading posts such as this one; as a teen I was finally able figure out what was going on in the world by reading books and articles similar to the subject of this post. I would never let anyone take that knowlege away from me.

    Teens should be reading more, not less. That’s how they can take care of themselves when they have to face the real world.

    Posted: 2008-06-29 17:29:39 #

16. Stitch
    Member

    First time? Let’s see…I was maybe 14…60 years ago…on the farm. Don’t recall her name. Nor the species.

    Come to think of it, don’t recall the last time either…

    Posted: 2008-06-29 19:11:30 #

17. Svetlana
    Member

    Good for you, stitch! I can do it without a name. My number 2 and 3 kinda got through it without remembering. And I did the same with my number 4. Why do I have concentrate on his name. When I need it, I will remember. When you feel emotion, you remember better. How’s that for education?!

    Posted: 2008-06-29 23:00:59 #