In a Nutshell

Date: Mon, 29 Jun 2009 02:25:19 -0700

From: me

Subject: Pictures

To: Libra Man

 

I am certainly not a morning person, more of a night owl, but these few days are an exception for me.  I just could not sleep.  I got a new job and maybe it is stress, I do not really know.  These guys that I met were not about chemistry at all – all they wanted was sex on their terms – not strings attached.  They need a woman to be on a “booty call” and they could not care less about her.  I am putting it bluntly, of course, they use “normal” acceptable phraseology, but it all boils down to sex only.  But that category was to respond first and first to come (of course! they are motivated)!!!.

 

That is what I personally do not understand.  I am a caring person; I care about my friends, my neighbours, people on the street and complete strangers.  I don’t have to be asked to help; I am always the first one to offer.

 

But I now, I learned “their language”, and I see them immediately.  It took me a week to eliminate this category and I have only been on LavaLife for a week.

 

I did respond to you, because I have a strategy.  I am being pro-active.  I take charge.  But it does not mean that a telephone number is an invitation to bed.  It is part of the process.  First we make contact, exchange e-mails, then talk on the phone and then a cup of coffee.  It is very similar to a job interview.  I am totally done with IM – it is insane and it is nothing but a waste of time.

 

I am trying to adjust the process as I go.  By the way, I always ask guys how it is going for them, because I am genuinely interested.  You are the only one to give me such a story.  Everybody else says that is going fine, thank you very much.

 

By the way, I could not see you that well on the picture either.

 

Do not worry about my number, just take your time.  A lot of guys do not call anyways.  The reason is that they are not interested.  The only thing that bothers me – why then they use the service if it costs so much.

 

Svetlana

 

 

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From: Libra Man

To: me

Sent: Tuesday, June 30, 2009 4:51:58 AM

Subject: RE: Pictures

 

Hey Svetlana, thanks for the pics..you look good to me

And I appreciate your openness..

 

But no, I didn’t think giving me your number was an invitation to bed lol.

It sounds like it’s all or nothing, and that’s where it stands for you. I understand that. I don’t know if I’m your type, but I can call you sometime if you’re still interested..maybe take it from there?

 

Here are a few other pics.

 

Libra Man

 

 

Date: Wed, 1 Jul 2009 08:09:21 -0700

From: me

Subject: My type?

To: Libra Man

 

How can I decide whether you are my type or not?  I haven’t even talked to you and I haven’t even met you.  Pictures are pictures, they do not tell much.  If you were to buy a real estate, would you go by a description and a picture?  If you were to buy new clothes, wouldn’t you try it on?

 

http://www.altrealm.com/conversations/2008-08-30/signs/

 

Read this short story “Signs”.  You only have “to flip coins”, when you do not know what it is exactly that you want.  When you know what you want, you will do it.  It is very easy, just common sense.

 

Besides, I did not understand what you mean exactly by “all or nothing”?  Does it really exist in this world?  I have a lot in my life – my family, my son, my friends and a new and exciting job.  Finding a man is not easy, but it is only a matter of time.  I am a “go-get-girl”, but not in a romantic relationship.  I am a woman and I want to be treated like one.  My femininity is not of a regular quality, but I can bet you anything, these simple and ordinary women have not a clue how to be seductive.  And no, dressing up the part is not enough.  Playing the part requires talent and skill, not a costume.

 

I never pursue men.  Never, ever, ever.

 

Weak, indecisive, wishy-washy, boring is certainly not my type.

 

Svetlana

 

 

From: Libra Man

To: me

Sent: Wednesday, July 1, 2009 5:47:51 PM

Subject: RE: My type?

 

 Re ‘type’ -that’s all I meant…  just expressing a little doubt

 

You know EXACTLY what ‘all or nothing’ means. It exists to 99% of all women! How many women do you know that are in a relationship just for the sex? If it doesn’t come with any more than that, it would be VERY short-lived.

 

You’ve been on lava for a week? I’ve been on it on/off for 14 yrs. It’s been little more than a social experiment, and the results aren’t encouraging. I’ve found most women are on it for attention, ego stroking, and teasing. I can lecture you on weak, indecisive, wishy-washy, boring, ..not to mention fickle Men have to pay to use the site, so we’re not in it to waste time/effort.

 

I’ve had a number of gfs off the site, but they were compromises. I’ve always believed having something is better than nothing..may be sad, but realistic.

I have to say, I liked your take on your ‘femininity’ So true about women just looking the part. I do find you a little intriguing

 

Libra Man

 

 

Date: Wed, 1 Jul 2009 15:37:53 -0700

From: me

Subject: Re: My type?

To: Libra Man

 

 

I felt like you were screaming at me.

 

Svetlana

 

 

From: Libra Man

To: me

Sent: Thursday, July 2, 2009 2:34:51 AM

Subject: RE: My type?

 

Sorry. Just venting Guess we both expressed a little frustration.

To let you know, I work nights from Mon-Thurs, so I can try calling you sometime Fri night or the weekend? I’m nicer on the phone ..and in person.

You set off any fireworks last night?         Libra Man

 

 

Date: Thu, 2 Jul 2009 00:20:39 -0700

From: me

Subject: Re: My type?

To: Libra Man

 

Apologies accepted.  I was not frustrated at all.  That is all in the past when I did not know enough about people, about myself and I could not communicate effectively.  Now, it became much much easier.  It is a skill, which can be developed.  Well, moving on.  I am supposed to work on Friday and Saturday from 9 am to 5 pm, but it might change.  The other person who was hired to work with me, has quit, so the schedule might be different.  You can try and call me, but I prefer when you let me know before you call (send an e-mail or something).  Otherwise I will be in the middle of something and it always feels a bit awkward.

 

I did not set any fireworks myself.  But my son was invited by his girlfriend to see Fireworks and I saw them all over the city from my balcony (I live in a Penthouse).  But that was certainly not the best part of my day.

 

Good night, night owl

Svetlana

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