After he asked me to not contact him ever again, he wrote to me: 

Wow..  You really are quite angry.  Perhaps you should look t someone who can help you overcome your frustrations.

 Such a shame that you have to spend your energy being negative, writing blogs and material about the bad.

 Try being positive and writing about good things, so you don’t go around bashing men.  You are sad…

 Best of luck…

 I did not respond to his advice.  But to you, my audience, whoever you are, I want to say:  I am not angry at all.  The first time I heard this phrase “be positive” was on the plane – London – Toronto, on March 4, 1997, the day of my landing in Canada.  And there is plenty I want to say about being positive, negative and neutral.  Just keep reading.  If you want to, that is.

From: Capricorn 1144>
Subject: RE: An Answer
To: Halloween Girl 42
Received: Saturday, June 27, 2009, 2:00 PM

Well now, angry are we?

I won’t run on like you to defend my positions that you have attacked.  Your response just shows the type of person I thought you might be, which is what I picked up on from you.

For you to actually strike back with such emotion tells me you are not happy and very much in need to find a better place.  The fact that you repeatedly stated that you could not care less, well that is just your defensive side.

Above all, you could have just not responded at all (like my advice to you about unfavourable Lava men), OR simply taken a more graceful route by simply saying a few words and perhaps good luck.  

You did not so this, which is a symtom for you to reflect on and look inside yourself to know this is not a positive atribute to show.

Fact is, nothing you said rings true in my world as I am in a transiant place, have some friends to hang with, and have no shortage of mid 30’s smart, attractive women to date who are looking for quality over quantity.  2nd, 3rd dates are more common than you think for me…..and I am going on one tonight.  

If you value your integrity, no further response is neccessary or needed.  Your words mean nothing to me, so save them.  Good luck with your career path and future.

Capricorn

Date: Sun, 28 Jun 2009 00:26:35 -0700
From: Halloween Girl 42
Subject: RE: An Answer
To: Capricorn 1144=

Last Reply from Capricorn1144

Say what you will, but your previous response already shows your anger.

Too late to change that now.

Material for your book?  

I will keep your email reply for the record in case you do mention my name in vain.  Regardless, you need to move on and not bother wasting your time with me as we are not a good social match. 

It is funny that you now come to the surface about “unknowingly” suggesting that you have good material for a book.  Nothing happened and your responsibility for whatever you think happened has not been addressed, so taking something that is not real and didn’t happen is fiction.  

Any further attempts to contact me will just show how you don’t respect another’s point of view.

PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT ME ANY FURTHER

From: Capricorn 1144>
Subject: An Answer
To: Halloween Girl 42
Received: Saturday, June 27, 2009, 8:59 AM

Halloween Girl,

I have not promised you anything other than being honest.  I said I would try to call you and as I said from the start, I was whom I said I was when we met and we shared some fun kissable moments.

I have had other things on my mind and didn’t want to contact you until I was ready to follow through with meeting again.

Perhaps I am not as available as you would like, so maybe you should move on to another guy.  I was looking for some “no strings attached” kind of sensual fun, but the expectation of you now wondering where I am, is simply not what I want.

Best of luck with everything!

-Capricorn-

Date: Sat, 27 Jun 2009 12:30:50 -0700
From: Halloween Girl 42
Subject: Re: An Answer
To: Capricorn 1144

So, I met this guy from LavaLife in person. He was all about respect.  That is his favourite (f-word).  I am normally about honesty and my f-word is friendship.

Let me give him a nickname – Capricorn 1144.  He also kept repeating his mantra “Don’t tell me, show me” which made sense in a way, but still was odd.  I had a mixed feeling about him and as usual instead of trusting my intuition; I was going to rely on my mind and reason.  Well, never, ever again.  Intuition first, mind and reason last.  He had good qualities among which the one I especially look for in people – the sense of humour.  However, what he was looking for – was not me.  I would describe it like that:

“Wanted: meaningful overnight relationship.”  He put it “no strings attached, respectful fun.” 

My problem: I want too much from guys, I am too intense.  His problem: bad timing.  Ok, enough said.

 One of the topics we discussed, why guys behave like assholes and he said, “Men are scum”.  He said that I should be very careful.  I said that all I was asking for was honesty.  Don’t let me wait and guess what the hell you wanted.  Call me and say it to my face.  Whatever it is.  So, when we parted on that day and it was only one date, he said, “I will (emphasis on “will”) call you.”

 He did not.

 And now is the story of what came next. (to be continued)

Scorpio came first. He asked what Tolerance was and whether it could be used for torture.  Having heard the answer, he grew gloomy, wrote down something in his black notebook and left, waving his whip.

Capricorn did not think it was respectable enough for him to be seen pushing his way through the crowd, so he sent a courier – Sagittarius.  Sagittarius took as much Tolerance as he could fit in his knapsack, but on his way back he was distracted, carried away, went abroad and lost his knapsack there.  To Capricorn he wrote that only assholes gave such assignments and continued his journey without luggage.

Along came provident Cancer and picked up Tolerance that was dropped by Sagittarius.  Cancer stashed it away.  Somewhere.  Sometimes he finds it, all of it at once, but then he fears that it might be stolen, stashes it away in a different place and forgets where again.  And when Cancer begins complaining that all the people around him are not friends but a wolf pack, it means that he lost his Tolerance again.

Libra came in time and asked for a couple of elegant Tolerances, please.  Despite the fact that Libra actually got what he asked for, he very rarely uses either of the two Tolerances because Libra cannot really decide which is better.

Aquarius came one of the first, but was promptly kicked out of the queue when he said that the creator of “Tolerance” was an amateur lacking both skill and imagination and his “Creation” looked no better than what preschoolers usually do under poor supervision.  Aquarius would do a much better job, when he would have enough time, that is.

Virgo spent too much time calculating exactly how much Tolerance of exactly what Standard and Specification he needed.  Therefore his missed his queue and got very little Tolerance of the Highest Standard.  To make up for it, Virgo also got a device with which Tolerance was weighed.  Now Virgo keeps his own miniscule Tolerance of the Highest Quality to himself and goes around with his weighing device measuring everybody else’s tolerance.

Aries wanted to come first, but on his way he met Pisces who had already got Tolerance.  Pisces managed to run away, but their Tolerance was dramatically damaged.  There where Aries got to Pisces (suffice it to say that Aries got almost everywhere), Pisces’ Tolerance became cracked and misshapen so much that it discontinued to look like Tolerance altogether.

Aries turned back and went home because he was not a loser not to be the first in line, especially not after Pisces. However, Aries liked the word “Tolerance” so much, that he engraved it on his baseball bat.

Leo did not come at all, because he did not know what Tolerance was.  And since he did not know it was clear enough that he did not need it.

Taurus came only to tell that he already had Tolerance of his own which was the Best.  Those who disagree could get lost and the quicker the better.

After everybody left, very late at night “a slightly detained” Gemini came… to find only a tiny heap of scraps, left-overs, odds and ends, odd-come-shorts et cetera. He looked around and took it all.  Therefore Gemini has an abundant supply of Tolerance; however, sometimes it seems that he had found it on the garbage heap.

By the way, for those unaware what Tolerance is

a willingness to be tolerant and respectful toward people whose opinions or ways differ from one’s own.

tolerant – willing to let other people do as they think best;

willing to allow beliefs and actions of which one does not approve.