Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener.

It is a Saturday, a sunny and cold day in Toronto.  In 1993, February 6^th was a Saturday, it was sunny in the morning and cold, the roads were slippery (talk about signs!!!), but then it warmed up enough for a real snow storm in the night.

So, today is my wedding anniversary with my first husband to whom I am no longer married.  I am not divorced from him either.  The divorce is still in the process…

I often wonder when the break up really happened and who broke what… and honestly I don’t know.  The saddest part is that I still care.  The best part is… well, the best part remains to be discovered.

Another chapter in my journey.  As much as I am unable to do anything these days or write anything, I could not miss this day.  I should make a post.  And, surprisingly enough it turns out to be the post # 342 (here it comes again, my number 42).  Madness?  Eccentricity? 

“Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Remarriage is the triumph of hope over experience…”

 

“The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.” – Henny Youngman.

 

 

“I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; and then it was too late.”

 

 

“I think weddings are sadder than funerals, because they remind you of your own wedding. You can’t be reminded of your own funeral because it hasn’t happened. But weddings always make me cry.” – Brendan Behan (1923-64) Irish playwright.

 

 

“Three rings of marriage: The engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering.”

 

 

“I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.” – George Burns.

 

 

“Marriage is for women the commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution.” – Bertrand Russell (1872-1970), British philosopher, Marriage and Morals.

 

 

“Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success.” – Jim Backus.

 

 

“By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.” – Socrates.

 

 

“The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing — and then marry him.” –Cher

SCORPIO – AQUARIUS

Linda Goodman’s “Love Signs”, page 745.

One pastime Scorpio and Aquarius both enjoy (or maybe I should say are unable to resist) when they’re together is probing each other’s secrets.  Both are born detectives, and neither can stand not knowing what makes the other tick.  They’ll take each other apart, like the works of a clock, Scorpio in a subtle, deceptively casual manner, Aquarius in an occasionally rude and always very direct manner.  I’m sure the Aquarians reading this will be protesting that they’re not interested in anyone’s business, and therefore are not snoopy.  True, they aren’t interested for the purpose of passing on gossip or being judgmental, but they are very much interested in checking things out, in accumulating data, so to speak.

The thing is, although both Scorpio and Aquarius would like to learn everything they can about each other, neither wants her (or his) own mysteries unveiled.  Obviously, it’s a situation fraught with all sorts of possibilities.  Each individual relationship is different, but normally the Scorpion has a slight edge on the Water Bearer when it comes to plumbing the other person’s secrets, while managing to keep one’s own personal eccentricities and private idiosyncrasies under lock and key.  Not always, but most of the time.

Another wee difficulty they’ll have to overcome is that both Scorpio and Aquarius are Fixed Signs.  Fixed is one degree this side of stubborn.  By “this side” I mean on the side of slightly more so.  Like, unmoving.  Difficult to budge from a position.  The problem is, I believe, self-evident.  The solution requires one or both of them to have the Moon or Ascendent in a more flexible sign.  This would help a great deal.  Very little else will.  But the wisdom of the stars will usually ensure that at least one of them is influenced by Mutable planet positions at birth.  (Of course, Fixed also means stable and lasting, so, like everything else, it has its positive side).

One difference between these two is that Scorpio has a long, long memory (only the memory of the Bull is longer, with the Crab running third) – and Aquarius is doing well to recall where her (or his) car is parked.  This absent-mindedness of the Uranus genius does come in handy, however, for forgetting old wounds.  The typical Water Bearer will seldom hold a grudge or go out of the way to get even.  Scorpio would do well to imitate this Aquarian trait.  On the other side of the fence, Scorpio is an expert in the fine art of self-control, not always, but usually keeping his (or her) emotions disciplined, and Aquarius would do well to imitate Scorpio’s Pluto composure and poise, since the average Water Bearer possesses very little self-control and can flash into a streak of anger as unexpectedly as a lightning bolt (although it normally just as quickly passes).

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Still, with all their interwoven and tangled qualities and clashing habits, an association between Scorpio and Aquarius is potentially an interesting experiment and experience for each of them, even for the innocent bystanders and onlookers.  It’s educational…enlightening.  There’s one quality Pluto and Uranus bestow upon both Scorpio and Aquarius – one word that describes the influence of these stars over both their personalities: “unpredictable”.  This same word perfectly sums up all possible scores in any compatibility game between them.  But neither Scorpio nor Aquarius would have it any other way.  The Eagle and the Water Bearer are not the kind to enjoy making a bet on a sure thing.